THE BREAKDOWN: During a special Father’s Day appearance on CNN’s “State of the Union,” South Carolina Senator Tim Scott shared his personal history of growing up in a single-parent household, his adult reconciliation with his father, and his new role as a stepfather. Scott discussed how his father’s departure when he was seven years old caused immediate financial and academic hardships, leading him to fail four high school classes. He credited his grandfather with providing a stable foundation, explained how learning about his father’s traumatic return as a Black Vietnam War veteran helped them eventually reconcile, and detailed his current approach to blending into his new family after marrying at age 58.
U.S. Senator Tim Scott of South Carolina opened up about his childhood struggles with abandonment, his adult reconciliation with his father, and his recent transition into stepfatherhood during an interview broadcast Sunday on CNN’s “State of the Union” with Jake Tapper.
Scott was seven years old when his parents separated, prompting his family to move into the Brown Street apartments, an area he described as a very poor neighborhood. The senator noted that the departure of a father often brings immediate economic consequences for a family.
“That’s probably the biggest impact of the father of not being there is usually, when the father leaves, the income goes as well,” Scott said. “It’s probably one of the more devastating parts of actually living in a single-parent household.”
The emotional and financial strain contributed to personal and academic difficulties for Scott during his early high school years. As a freshman, he failed four subjects, including English and Spanish.
“I think life had compounded on my shoulders enough where I was lost,” Scott said. “The truth of the matter is that, when you are drifting, you never drift in the right direction. And a lot of that has to do with the absence of a father.”
Scott attributed much of his father’s personal struggles to the trauma of serving in the Vietnam War and the hostile reception he received upon returning to the United States. Scott recalled that an angry mob screamed and spat at his father at the airport.
“Coming back from Vietnam for all soldiers was a painful experience. They were rejected by our society writ large,” Scott explained. “As a black military person coming back to our country, you can add the racial component on top of that in late ’60s, early ’70s. It was just a painful, miserable experience for him coming back. So, the complicated nature of life makes the scar tissue that’s not visible manifest in a visible way.”
Following the family split, Scott’s grandfather took them into his home in 1972. A disciplined man of few words, his grandfather had left elementary school after the third grade to pick cotton and perform farmwork in segregated South Carolina. He became a permanent anchor in Scott’s life until his death in 2016.
Scott recalled his grandfather’s enduring advice: “Son, you can get bitter because of the negative experiences you’re having or you can get better. I recommend you get better.”
Despite his father’s long absence, Scott said he never stopped wanting his approval, challenging the common assumption that estranged children reject their missing parents.
“I don’t know very many kids who don’t want to make their dads proud,” Scott said. “I think that there’s a misnomer and a misperception that a kid who’s separated from their father does not yearn for their father’s approval. That’s just the way it is.”
The two men eventually initiated a reconciliation when Scott was in his late 20s and 30s. Scott described the process of confronting deep issues as an adult as highly painful, but noted that gaining insight into his father’s life experiences changed his perspective.
“The truth of the matter is, he’s just human, that, as he encounters real life, it creates real scar tissue,” Scott said. “And that scar tissue is hard to digest, hard to process, hard to deal with. And the more I understood that, the easier it was to reconcile.”
Two years ago, at age 58, the longtime bachelor married Mindy Noce, becoming a stepfather to her three near-adult children: Luci, P.J., and Gabby. Scott noted that the children call him “Tim” rather than dad, which he expects given their ages when he entered their lives. However, he shared that school teachers have highlighted his positive role as a father figure, and he was recently invited to walk his stepdaughter out during a father-daughter football milestone.
Scott stated he relies heavily on advice given to him by his pastor before his wedding.
“He says, listen, you’re marrying the mother. You’re not marrying the kids. They’re not asking you to be their father. You have to earn the right to have influence in their lives,” Scott said. “Really important advice. And that means keep your mouth closed until invited into the conversation. And that has served me really well.”
Concluding the interview, Scott offered advice to individuals currently growing up in households without a father present.
“If you are without a father, do not think that his absence somehow makes you less qualified to do anything,” Scott said. “You are fearfully and wonderfully made, but it is your responsibility at a certain age to take responsibility of your life and to make the most out of it. Do not let your dad’s absence be an excuse for doing something that you will later regret.”
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